My “Top 100 reasons” I am glad⌠to be a happily partnered woman with a woman! Note: being a heterosexual does not cause discontentment. Being in a straight marriage does not cause discontentment. Being a housewife does not cause discontentment.
These are my personal reasons. These âreasonsâ are not meant in any way to be construed as âman bashing.â I am fully aware that things I share here are likely not the experience of every lesbian, nor the experience of every woman who is with a man (or even married to a conservative Christian manââa fundieâ).
(âDisclaimersâ continued at bottomâŚ)
We BOTH wear the pants in the relationship (or sometimes no one is wearing the pants).
My partner is clean and smells good!
Sex is WAY better now! (That is probably the âofficialâ #1).
We are both breadwinners.
We are both homemakers.
I donât HAVE to wear dresses and heels or anything in particular to be âsexy.â
I donât HAVE to grow my hair long.
I donât HAVE to be âsubmissiveâ (you know what I mean).
Her hand just fits.
No back hair!
No trying to convince me that a âBJâ would benefit me because of the âprotein.â
We BOTH get to initiate sexâwhenever, wherever!
No more worrying about âyou never know when it might go off.â
Her kisses are sweeter.
No hair in the sink.
We both get to be on top (or bottom) a.k.a.âno lazy participants!
No greasy hair and killer breath in the morning.
No more âtighty whityâs.â
No more shin lacerations from un-groomed feet.
Either of us drives.
Either of us holds the door.
Either of us pays the tab.
I have emotional and physical fidelity.
She hasnât âlet herself go.â
Neither of us claims to have exclusive knowledge and interpretation of Godâs word.
OK, Iâll say it, two words: comfortable shoes!
Softness.
I respect my partner now.
My partner isnât ogling other women.
Nurtured when I am sick.
Smoothness.
Not having to worry about getting pregnant.
Are you kidding? She is hot!
Relationship is egalitarian not dictatorial.
OK, how bout a simpler reason: I get to use the remote!
Making love happens after I get in the room.
The curves.
No finding used condoms on the floor.
My partner doesnât go to the store un-showered and in sweats.
I donât always have to be the âdesignated driver.â
My partner is not always and automatically âright.â
Flowers and other romantic gestures (on other days besides Valentineâs Day).
Finesse in the art of lovemaking
No stubble burn when kissing my partner.
The feminine touch.
I can still breathe when she kisses me.
Breasts!
She prefers my company to that of a video game.
If my partner is hungry, she just makes herself something to eat.
Sex is mutually satisfying.
My partner knows when I need to be held.
My ideas, wisdom and contributions are respected now.
No more sleeping in the wet spot.
When dining out my partner is engaged in conversation with me instead of irritating the wait staff.
I am loved for exactly who I am, not a modified version of me.
Foreplay!
Iâm not a second class citizen to my partner because of âmale privilegeâ or biblical usurpation.
Emotional intimacy.
Hips
I no longer have to fantasize about what it would be like to be with a woman.
No more asking âpermissionâ in every aspect of my life.
Digital ministrations.
Gender does not, by default, equal âauthority.â
My breasts are no longer simply âradio dials.â
Cleanliness.
Giving her pleasure can be satisfaction enough.
No one is pitchinâ a tent in my bed.
Thighs
<ââŚThe number says it all! đ
Power tools take on a whole new meaning.
Sometimes a âquickieâ can be all about me.
Eyes open when weâre doinâ it.
Our value to each other is beyond mere earning potential.
My lover just âgets it.â
I am no longer in a âthreesomeâ: me, a man and his ego. đ
My partner expresses appreciation for all I do.
I get to choose my own political affiliation.
Slow dancing in the kitchen after dark⌠shirts optional.
OK, we canât leave out good old âHome Depotâ now can we?
The beautiful complexity of the female orgasm.
She is proud of me.
The âfirst timeâ didnât hurt.
Less hierarchy and more harmony.
She is vocal about what she finds attractive about me.
We are bound by passionânot âtraditionâ (or âinstitutionâ).
She prefers my hair and nails shorter (honestly, I have better uses for the time previously spent on all that hair plus nail prep.).
Less about authority and more about authenticity.
More sex with (only) each other.
I just âgetâ all those love songs now!
We are both from the âsame planetâ (remember the old âMen are from Mars/Women are from Venusâ?)
Doinâ it with the lights on!
She remembers our anniversary(s).
I donât need to think about anyone else when I am âwithâ her.
We have stayed together because of devotion to each other, not because of âchurch sanctionâ (or fear of falling out of favor with a church).
Less competition and more compatibility.
I am a whole âone of twoâ joined with my partner instead of half âof one.â
Less entitlement and more encouragement.
She stands up for me.
If one mom is good, then two is better (for our kids)!
She restored my faith in love.
Bonus âreasonsâ:
I have grown to be way more tolerant, less judgmental, more compassionateâŚ
No battles over âheadshipâ
No co-opting God into enforcing an unequal power differential
No more watching my significant other adjust his âpackageââHA! đ
Her favorite outfit for me is faded blue jeans, a white blouse and no shoes.
AutonomyâŚ
If she makes a mess she cleans it up right then. Itâs not left for me to clean.
Plus, in gay relationshipsâŚwe can double our wardrobe. Canât find anything in my closet? Hmm⌠I check hers!
Disclaimers Continued⌠đ Some of these âreasonsâ have been born out of me seeing a man somewhere in some context and then saying âreason #39.â Some of these reasons were born out of something that was expected of me or said to me in my former life. Some are just because!
These are intended primarily to be funny and tongue in cheek (although some are serious in nature) and mostly represent my personal experience as a woman.
And for all the men in my life: friends, acquaintances, brothers etc. you all know I wouldnât trade ya! There are many men in my life that I love and appreciate!
Like I said, while some of my âreasonsâ are serious, many are intended to be mostly humorous. If you ended up here by accident and this type of humor isnât your cup-o-tea, glad you dropped by anyway.
PS- I actually found a list somewhere calledâ100 Reasons to be Gay.â You might find it worth a read and a chuckle.
(http://www.jokesandhumor.com/jokes/323.html)
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