Posted in life, tagged affordable care act, DOMA, domestic partnership, FAIL, family, lesbian life, Obama, obamacare, same-sex marriage on June 25, 2015|
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It is 2015, and even with today’s court confirmation of the “affordable care act” provisions… I cannot believe 6 years later LGBT families in many states remain second class citizens in the face-to-face practical settings (like hospitals).
I wrote this (linked) post back in June of 2009 where various media (including Obama) was trying to placate the LGBT population by saying “hey, at least we can give these gay/lesbian folks hospital visits.*” Way too placatory and seemed mostly disingenuous.
And yet? In 2015? After almost 16 years with my partner? When she had to be taken to the hospital and could not speak for herself? “Hospital visits*” were denied. Here is what happened. Family came to visit from out of state. Half the family went indoors with my partner, and the liquor to flow. Forty-five minutes later I came inside my living-room to see my lady barely unable to open her eyes or hold her head up. 😦 The next several hours are a painful blur. I don’t “make enough” to buy insurance on the marketplace for the “affordable care act” (ironic). And the family member that was drinking with my partner wanted to “take her to the hospital” (but we did not have insurance). So, the best I could do was run out to the garage after these people … at least talked them into putting my wife into MY car. I left without my phone or purse. Once we got to the ER the family members “took over.” I kept calm and told the staff at the intake window… “if I were her husband you would let me in.” This is one of the reason I call the Keystone State “Pennsyltucky.” I then let the front desk staff know that I may need to speak to a nurse to inform the staff what Rx my wife is on so that the hospital staff did not harm her with their treatment.
This was a very painful 3 hours alone for me… out in our car (instead of by her bedside). However, this day moved us to finally make the decisions to pursue and complete all the legal paperwork to ENSURE that NO family member, friend or hospital staff could EVER again keep either of us from the bedside of one another! That day, my wife could not speak for herself. So, the family I thought I could trust … demonstrated all too painfully that they would/could dismiss me. This will NEVER happen again! (Because we have finally taken legal action to notarize all paperwork to protect ourselves from here on out). Some of life’s most painful situations teach us the most valuable lessons and move us to make the most important decisions.
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Posted in blogging, domestic partnership, gay rights, LGBT, LGBT rights, life, musings, prop8, same sex relationships, tagged Basic Rights Oregon, DOMA, domestic partnership, Dump DOMA, Equality Advocates PA, Lemons v. Bradbury, Oregon Domestic Partnership, Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania Equality on February 10, 2010|
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That is the title of a news story currently at HRC. It is also now a discouraging reality of our lives.
We previously lived in Oregon where we witnessed that State take three steps forward and two steps back in the relationship recognition battle through the years. Our hopes were raised, our hopes were dashed. Then our hopes were redesigned and redelivered. We were pretty content with the end result in Oregon.
But, as with most of life… don’t get too comfortable! Because the winds of change are going to blow you to a land where people have concluded that you are decidedly a full fledged second class citizen (remember the PA. Senator John Eichelberger who magnanimously stated that PA. is graciously “allowing gays to exist”?) When we moved to Pennsylvania this last summer we suddenly lost any and all relationship recognition and protections that we had in Oregon.
If only something could be done on a National level to help ensure and protect the relationship recognition and rights for same-sex couples! Wait. I believe there is something that could be done! DOMA could be repealed!
In fact, our current President made it a campaign point to say that he supported the repeal of the “Defense of Marriage Act.” On September 15, 09 Rep. Jerrold Nadler (D-NY) introduced the Respect Marriage Act in Congress to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act. Time will tell whether President Obama will indeed see this campaign promise brought to fruition while it is within his power to do so.
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Posted in attitudes, behavior, blogging, encouragement, family, gay life, gay marriage, gay rights, home, HRC, lesbian life, LGBT rights, Melissa Etheridge, parenting, same sex relationships, same-sex marriage, tagged change, domestic partnership, family, gay marriage, lesbian life on September 15, 2009|
Posted in domestic partnership, domestic partnerships, gay rights, LGBT, LGBT rights, politics, same sex relationships, tagged democracy, domestic partnership, Oregon Domestic Partnership on September 2, 2008|
Posted in domestic partnership, domestic partnerships, gay life, gay rights, GLBT, lesbian life, lesbians, LGBT, LGBT rights, News, politics, queer, same sex relationships, tagged Basic Rights Oregon, domestic partnership, Lemons v. Bradbury, Oregon Domestic Partnership on August 14, 2008|
Posted in Bible and homosexuality, family, gay life, GLBTQ Christians, Katy Perry, LGBT, lifestyle, love, relationships, religion, religion and politics, sexuality and spirituality, tagged bisexual, domestic partnership, heterosexual, homosexual, Katy Perry, questions, Restore America on August 12, 2008|
Posted in domestic partnership, family, gay life, gay marriage, gay rights, lesbian life, lesbians, LGBT, LGBT rights, life, parenting, queer, same sex relationships, same-sex marriage, tagged domestic partnership, gay rights, inequity, relationship recognition, same sex relationships on July 30, 2008|