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Way _off_ TARGET!

SIGH… first… let me share this image… IMG_3615 For more than a dozen years, all that the other bio parent of my step-children (and the 2nd paramour- “target2”) could “say bad about me” was: “she’s fat.” As this image illustrates. So what? I have since lost 1/2 my body weight, and that is immaterial. What is far more salient is that the person(s) maligning me for that “fat issue” were (are) definitely many of the definitions of the plethora of various words _after_ the “worse than” in the above image. So, the beat goes on and on and on and on. And so continues the pain, damage and lies. So, the worst thing to “target” a person for in America is their size? I say no. I believe it is their character and pattern of abusive and malicious behaviors.

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Life is a mystery. Both a beautiful one at times, and a disenchanting one at other times.

Since the beginning of 2010 life here has been mostly disappointing and disenchanting. I’ll recap some of it by pointing to this post.

The rest? Well, the youngest teen in our home was sent to spend half the summer with their other biologic parent (at our expense for the 3rd summer in a row) and the sibling of that teen was left behind here… because that out-of-town parent told that teen not to come out. This is the 1st time the two siblings have ever spent more than a day or 2 apart. The teen away from home visiting the out-of-town parent has been treated to a full court press — a veritable full-time red-carpet campaign to be convinced to go live with that parent. Without the older sibling there, the younger is pretty much a “sitting duck” for the manipulation there.

We shall see, near the end of next week, if that young person actually gets on the plane and returns home as scheduled (and ticketed) or if a whole new drama begins in the lives of the two siblings.

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After Wednesdays landmark decision  to overturn Prop. 8 (California’s ban on same-sex marriage), several news shows highlighted coverage of the legal victory in the Prop. 8 case, and discussed the important move toward full marriage equality in America.

On MSNBC that night, Keith Olbermann replayed his special comment from 11/10/2008 — after Prop. 8 had won that night via “popular vote.” This may be one of the best rebuttals to the “re-defining marriage” mantra.

I keep hearing this term “re-defining” marriage. If this country hadn’t re-defined marriage, black people still couldn’t marry white people. Sixteen states had laws on the books which made that illegal in 1967. 1967.

The parents of the President-Elect of the United States couldn’t have married in nearly one third of the states of the country their son grew up to lead. But it’s worse than that. If this country had not “re-defined” marriage, some black people still couldn’t marry black people. It is one of the most overlooked and cruelest parts of our sad story of slavery. Marriages were not legally recognized, if the people were slaves. Since slaves were property, they could not legally be husband and wife, or mother and child. Their marriage vows were different: not “Until Death, Do You Part,” but “Until Death or Distance, Do You Part.” Marriages among slaves were not legally recognized.

You know, just like marriages today in California are not legally recognized, if the people are gay.

What is this, to you? Nobody is asking you to embrace their expression of love. But don’t you, as human beings, have to embrace… that love? The world is barren enough.

It is stacked against love, and against hope, and against those very few and precious emotions that enable us to go forward. Your marriage only stands a 50-50 chance of lasting, no matter how much you feel and how hard you work.

And here are people overjoyed at the prospect of just that chance, and that work, just for the hope of having that feeling.  With so much hate in the world, with so much meaningless division, and people pitted against people for no good reason, this is what your religion tells you to do? With your experience of life and this world and all its sadnesses, this is what your conscience tells you to do?


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While perusing the WordPress Freshly Pressed” today I clicked across a pretty cool post. I thoroughly loved the clever and meaningful sign slogans that this blogger had compiled from their experience with the March for Equality. I’ll list a few favorites below, and you can read the entire list right here!

  • Be careful whom you hate – it could be someone you love.
  • Put down the Bible and pick up the Constitution.
  • In 29 states it’s legal to fire me for being a lesbian.
  • I lost my
    – child/ or
    – job/ or
    – reputation… etc.
    for being a lesbian
    thanks to prejudice or our country’s laws.

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Judge Vaughn Walker’s pending decision in the federal Prop 8 trial is still yet to be seen, but the marriage equality movement just won another major federal court victory.

A federal judge in Massachusetts ruled that a large part of the Defense of Marriage Act — the 1996 federal law banning recognition of same-sex marriage by the federal government — is unconstitutional.

This ruling on DOMA is wonderful news and a huge victory in our fight to bring full equality to all Americans. If the ruling is not overturned, the federal government will have to recognize same-sex marriages performed in states that recognize such marriages, eliminating yet another discriminatory barrier.

Of course, that didn’t stop Maggie Gallagher, Chair of the right-wing “National Organization for Marriage,” from claiming that this ruling might cause a “culture war”:

“Does this federal judge want to start another culture war? Does he really want another Roe. v. Wade? The simple fact is that the right of the federal government to define marriage for the purposes of its federal law and federal territories has been clear since the late 19th century, when Congress banned polygamy. Only an incompetent defense could have lost this case. We expect to win in a higher court.”

Now President Obama is faced with a critical decision: appeal the ruling to a higher court or let it stand. You can take a moment to tell President Obama you would like him to stand with equality by going here.

(Story courtesy of the Courage Campaign)

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Well the bridge is definitely out for these two ill fated lovers (at left). Watching Monday’s latest installment of The Bachelorette with Ali and the remaining “mild five” was fairly uneventful. It was the last 20 some odd minutes that brought the heckle value up a notch or five.

The usual post rose ceremony champagne “high five” for Ali and the remaining men was preempted last night to show Jake Pavelka and Vienna Girardi crash and burn as they officially explained their break up to Chris Harrison. This was not the best publicity for Jake the “fame whore” (Vienna’s “pet name” for Jake).

In the end Jake sounded like he was channeling Ross Perot! “Can I finish? Can I finish?…Can I finish?” — Love may begin with roses, but so often it seems to end with tears. I’m just guessing, but I bet that Jillian, Ali and Tenley are glad they didn’t end up hitching their wagon to this guy’s star!

Fast forward to later that night when Jake had Chinese food for dinner…

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