Posts Tagged ‘Oprah’

No, I am not referring to this. Now, this may be a little closer to what I am getting at. But what I really want to write about is rebirthing in terms of “redemption.”

Why? Well, I was watching the replay of Oprah’s two-part interview with Whitney Houston last night. But really any “come back” story (I liked how Oprah said “come through” as opposed to come back) seems to have a similar public reception. With only a very few exceptions, no matter how far someone has “fallen” as long as they return speaking the proper redemptive themes, they are almost always welcomed back with open arms.

Why are most individuals riveted by a compelling redemption story? I don’t know exactly. But I know why I am… because rebirthing, grace, forgiveness … redemption — all instill an indomitable hope!

What is my favorite such story? Robert Downey, Jr., Mikey Rourke, Whitney Houston? No.

My favorite is about a young man who was getting ready to turn 18. He had spring fever, “senioritis” … you name it! He went to his dad one day and said something like: “Dad, I’m 18  and I am pretty much done with my senior year. I really want to get out there and start experiencing real life!” His dad encouraged him to stay and finish his senior year at school and maybe even work over the summer and save for college. But the son could not be convinced. He said, “come on Dad, I know you saved for my college all these years, but college isn’t going to teach me all that I could learn if I just get out of here and live!” Reluctantly, the father gave the son his nest egg and wished him well. The son went his way.

The son rented a bachelor pad to entertain the many women he met, went to dance clubs, parties, denied himself nothing. He was everybody’s friend, and everyone loved to see him coming! This went on for years, as his father had saved enough for full 4 year college attendance.

Eventually, as was bound to happen, this young man’s resources ran completely out. And just his luck, recession hit. There were no jobs to be found — except at the zoo — cleaning the animal cages. As he was hosing the dung into the corner to be cleaned up, he thought to himself: “even my dad’s employees have it better than this! I have got to get out of here and just hope my Dad might take me back.”

What this son didn’t know was that every day during the previous several years, the father kept his eyes strained at the horizon… tirelessly hoping that his son may come back one day. Well, this was his lucky day! Long before the son could see his father’s house, his dad spotted him and dropped what he was doing and ran to his boy! They were at last reunited — that son truly was redeemed by his father.

How many of us would be like that father? How many of us would even expect that reaction? The more typical reaction (I have seen played out in the real world) is the “arms crossed, I-told-you-so, don’t do it again” reception. Or if not that, the individual coming back (or coming through) must speak and exhibit “works meet for repentance” before they are fully welcomed back.

Those are exactly the reasons that the above father and son story is my favorite “come back” story. I think my thought train may have taken a different track than I intended at the beginning of this post, but I think I still expressed the essence of what I was thinking about today.

“Never cease loving a person, and never give up hope for him, for even the prodigal son who had fallen most low, could still be saved; the bitterest enemy and also he who was your friend could again be your friend; love that has grown cold can kindle” Kierkegaard

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That, my friends, is the $25,000 question! Or at least a topic of increasing popularity.

There is nothing new under the sun, and some would say that same-sex pairings are as old as history itself. So, why is it that just recently Oprah is addressing the issue of “Why women are leaving men for other women”?

Lately, a new kind of sisterly love seems to be in the air. In the past few years… Certainly nothing is new about women having sex with women, but we’ve arrived at a moment in the popular culture when it all suddenly seems almost fashionable—or at least, acceptable.o_mag

Statistics on how many women have traded boyfriends and husbands for girlfriends are hard to come by. Although the U.S. Census Bureau keeps track of married, divorced, single, and even same-sex partners living together, it doesn’t look for the stories behind those numbers. But experts like Binnie Klein, a Connecticut-based psychotherapist and lecturer in Yale’s department of psychiatry, agree that alternative relationships are on the rise. “It’s clear that a change in sexual orientation is imaginable to more people than ever before, and there’s more opportunity—and acceptance—to cross over the line,” says Klein, noting that a half-dozen of her married female patients in the past few years have fallen in love with women. “Most are afraid that if they don’t go for it, they’ll end up with regrets.”

Over the past several decades, scientists have struggled in fits and starts to get a handle on sexual orientation. Born or bred? Can it change during one’s lifetime?…

The entire lengthy article in Oprah magazine is definitely worth reading of course. lesbian_luckHowever, I have given this topic quite a bit of thought myself through the years and I can offer you gentle readers a whole truck load of reasons why a woman just might leave a man for another woman. Some are humorous, some are serious. 🙂

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